
You know what’s worse than a back seat driver (even if it’s a teen that doesn’t even drive yet?) - a rear end driver! You know what I mean. The person driving directly behind you that is trying to control your car as well. You have the vision vantage point, yet they decide you should go. They lose patience and anger rises, horns blare, and screams emerge.
I had just such a driver behind me this morning. They proceeded to get irate when I didn’t go at their insistence. I don’t know why they felt it was their place to make my judgment call and decide for me. It was obvious to me that they were blind to the fact that the road was not clear, or safe to proceed. Nevertheless, I had to fight the urge to go just to please them. Clearly this was their issue but I felt a need to be the one to calm them down. I had to convince myself not to worry about their reaction to my decision.
I recognized long ago that I tend to be a people-pleaser. Obviously I still battle this tendency. Partly because I have a false, self-imposed sense of responsibility to do so. And partly for selfish reasons due to an underlying, driving need for their acceptance of me.
Coming to Christ brings about a new identity and part of spiritual maturity is realizing and accepting that identity. As I gain security in who I am in Him through God’s eyes, that temptation loses it’s power. The influence of people becomes less of a determining factor.
Do not put your trust in princes,
in mortal men, who cannot save.
When their spirit departs,they return to the ground;
on that very day their plans come to nothing.
A skewed, misaligned perspective is at the core of this fault. It is God I should aim to please and not mere man.
So we say with confidence,
"The Lord is my helper;
I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?"
Others do not have the ability or desire to consistently hold me in the same esteem as my Creator.
Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob,
whose hope is in the LORD his God,
the Maker of heaven and earth, the sea,
and everything in them—
the LORD, who remains faithful forever.
I need not be concerned with my errant feelings of worthiness. I don’t have to be perfect, flawless, beautiful, of high social standing, or famous to be loved by Him. I can be free to neglect what my friends and family think and remember that God finds me beautiful and delights in me. That was the hardest thing for me to accept and came years after I confessed my faith in Him to save me. The day He brought me to believe that He really did love me was an unforgettable and faith-changing moment. He was triumphant to demolish the lies I had believed for so long.
He upholds the cause of the oppressed
and gives food to the hungry.
The LORD sets prisoners free,
the LORD gives sight to the blind,
the LORD lifts up those who are bowed down,
the LORD loves the righteous.
The LORD watches over the alien
and sustains the fatherless and the widow,
but he frustrates the ways of the wicked.
Jesus accomplished God’s will with confidence and courage. He was secure in who He was, who God was, and just how much His Father loved Him. I cannot be who God created me to be and live purposefully for Him until I release my need to live for others. I read in
Captivating (an absolute
MUST read for all women) that no one can be to the people in my life who I can be to them and that no one can offer what I can offer.
God has blessed each believer with gifts to accomplish his will and plan for his church. He provides the necessary resources and equips each of us abundantly to meet each need.
Therefore you do not lack any spiritual gift
as you eagerly wait for our Lord Jesus Christ
to be revealed. He will keep you strong to the end,
so that you will be blameless on the day of our
Lord Jesus Christ. God,who has called you
into fellowship with his Son Jesus Christ our Lord,
is faithful.
A devotional I read on the
Purpose Driven Life website read: “A pencil brings glory to God by being a pencil. But, if you take a pencil and try to use it like a screwdriver, it won’t work and you’ll likely break the pencil“. I can not pretend to be something I’m not nor do what God has intended for someone else to do. I can be stubborn enough to try but I will be miserable and fail. I will never attain what He has planned for me and I will not be blessed with his peace.
I must be truthful and faithful in who I am created to be. For me it becomes a matter of allowing the truth of His Word to transform my mind - building on a foundation of growing trust and faith in Him. Believing what he says about me and not feeling an internal pressure to worry about what others think about me.
As I sat at that long red light I kept looking in my rear view mirror at the frustration of this driver. I tried not to condemn myself for not reacting to their liking. I felt empathy at their stress caused by such a minor infraction. I heard God speak truth to me - that it was their problem - and I felt His peace wash over me.
Release. I praised Him for deliverance and prayed for their state of mind.
[May you come to believe that the God of peace]“who through the blood of the eternal covenant brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep, equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” [
Hb 13:20-21]